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Fae/faer flag by Tumblr user whimsy-flags

Simplified fae/faer flag (also called fae/faer trans flag) by Tumblr user whimsy-flags

Fae/faer flag by DeviantArt user BLACKDOGZZ

Fae/faer flag by Tumblr user mourningmogaicrew

Faerself neopronouns are non-themed (pleopronouns) pronouns, or nounself pronouns related to fay, fae, fey, fair folk, and/or faeries.

Fae/Faer

Fae/faer neopronouns are commonly used as a non-themed (pleopronouns) set. They may also be used as a nounself pronoun set associated with fae or fairies. The fae/faer pronoun set is frequently considered one of the earliest modern neopronoun sets, and is currently known as one of the most popular and common neopronoun sets.

Case Pronoun Example
Nominative
Fae Fae went to the store
Accusative
Faer I met faer today
Pronominal Possessive
Faer Fae walked faer dog today
Predicative Possessive
Faers If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow faers
Reflexive
Faerself Fae had to drive faerself to school

Fey/Feym

Fey/feym flag by Reddit user u/hiitsyaz

A combination of the fae/faer and they/them pronoun sets.

Case Pronoun Example
Nominative
Fey Fey went to the store
Accusative
Fem or Feym I met fem today

I met feym today

Pronominal Possessive
Feir Fey walked feir dog today
Predicative Possessive
Feirs If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow feirs
Reflexive
Femself or Feirself Fey had to drive femself to school

Fey had to drive feirself to school

Fae/Fem

An alternate set combining Fae/Faer and They/Them [1]

Case Pronoun Example
Nominative
Fae Fae went to the store
Accusative
Fem I met fem today
Pronominal Possessive
Faer Fae walked faer dog today
Predicative Possessive
Faers If I need a phone my friend will let me borrow faers
Reflexive
Femself Fae had to drive femself to school

Origin

The fae/faer pronoun set was coined by Tumblr user Eidolan some time before 9 November 2013.[2][3] Fae stated that faer began to use the pronouns;

Because I am fae. I am described as such by people who don’t know me — fae and feline and not-exactly-human. I do identify as faen, and in some ways angel as well, and fae and angel are the goals of my presentation. My choice of fae as a pronoun reflects this.

Fae also described using the set as;

[...] a giant ‘fuck you’ to the gender binary and a refusal of much of the American culture surrounding gender. [...] it’s not male or female and using a pronoun that is very associated with creatures that stand outside humankind is, for me at least, a very good way to remind people of this constantly.

Fae/faer are frequently used by fairy- and fae-kin or fairygender individuals, but are neither mandatory pronouns for those with identities related to the fae nor exclusive to those identities. This set can be used by anyone, regardless of gender identity or expression, despite their creation being based around presenting as fae- and angel-like.

Controversy

In the late 2010s and early 2020s, a small controversy arose over who could use fae/faer pronouns. Some individuals asserted that fae/faer was exclusive to those of Celtic background and those who worked with the fae; however, this is untrue for a variety of reasons. The fae as a whole are not exclusive to Celtic cultures and are found in mythology all over Europe (particularly Slavic, German, and French mythology), even stretching into North America with fae-like creatures appearing in Cherokee mythology. Fair folk also appear in both Pagan and Christian religions. Indeed, "fae" and "faerie" themselves originated from Old French, which were in turn derived from a similar word in Colloquial Latin.[4]

Some individuals have cited concerns over inciting the anger of the fae themselves; however, it is frequently understood that the fae do not in fact like being called "the fae" and prefer "the fair folk" or another alternative, and thus generally do not care about humans using "fae" as pronouns.

Flags

Two flags were created by Tumblr user whimsy-flags on or before 28 August 2019[5] and posted 8 September 2019, one of which was described as a "fae/faer trans flag", although it is now also in use as a simplified version.[6]

An alternative flag was created by DeviantArt user BLACKDOGZZ on or before 22 March 2021.[7]

Neither flags have specified colour meanings.

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